Sunday, December 21, 2014
Because Mean People Suck
I have a sweet friend who is slipping away. Even though I haven't seen her in a year's time, I can feel her spirit leaving. It might be because my consciousness knows she is going, and I am becoming resigned to the idea.
I met her in 1989. She is a great lover of animals and a champion of homeless cats, especially. She is a tremendous patron of the arts.
But she is fragile. The abuse she was witness to has hit her hard. She was bombarded with dysfunction in her family and, probably because of her involvement in rescue, she had a high number of encounters with jerks. Her sadness pervaded and there was always an air of desperation about her; an energy of forced attempt at happiness.
She wanted to die for a long time, but she was resigned to living. Finally, cancer is having its way with her. And this is our loss. The world is losing a tremendous benefactor, a vessel of generosity.
Yesterday I had an unpleasant encounter with an unhappy person who oozes hatred, who puts her energy into twisting words and facts in order to trick people and fool people and cause dissension. I am faced with the age-old question: Why are the creeps allowed to stick around, while this beautiful, educated, kind hearted friend's life is cut short when she is barely 60 years old?
Because mean people suck! They suck the living life blood right out of you. They suck your energy. They suck away your happiness and your positive thoughts. They spread misery because it is all they know.
This is why the kind-hearted often succumb to disease, while the evil people forge onward.
Evil people will kill you.
I learned a valuable lesson from my sister Amanda, who has Down's syndrome, and recently went through a horrific time following the death of our Dad. In the midst of bad behavior among her relatives, she stayed focused on what was important to her: Love. She was somehow able to shed all the abuse and hysteria that was heaped upon her, and concentrate on the thing that mattered most: Her love for her family.
Now with my friend's demise, I am reminded again how important it is to turn away from the negativity dished out by those who thrive on it. Concentrate on people who make you laugh, who love you, who are grateful for the time here. Life is a brief and precious gift. No matter who someone is, be they blood relative; be it a sibling or a spouse or a parent; no one has the right to steal your life away. Get rid of the jerks; move on; stay focused on those who are kind, who have empathy, and who know how to love. It's never too late to learn to truly live.